kevin is a grey area

i wonder if kevin has realized his place as an enabler, and his negligence which lead towards ruby’s power trip and physical abuse. i wonder if he feels sorrow for allowing a narcissist continue to harm his children for years, even before her arrest. i wonder if he could see her narcissism and abusive behavior, or if he was just so blind sided by his love for her, that it became almost easy to ignore it. no doubt he probably regrets family vlogging, but i wonder if he truly understands the gravity and weight of what it did to his children. i wonder if he’s apologized to shari for standing against her instead of standing with her when she was fighting for her siblings. i do think, unlike ruby, kevin has the ability to feel emotion and love towards other people, notably his children. i remember from the vlogs how he was always the more affectionate, even keeled parent when he wasn’t enabling ruby’s behavior. he always seemed to have a soft spot for R. (that is, until he let ruby convince him that a good punishment would be to take christmas away, but by that point he had been drinking the koolaid just as long as ruby) i wonder if he himself has gone to therapy, to unpack what went down in the cult, what happened prior to the cult, his subservient behavior towards ruby, and the mistreatment of his own self by ruby. my point being, i think kevin is more complex than ruby, who is just a straight up monster. i do believe he loves his children, but i wonder if he sees how his role as the subservient husband lead to all this. he seems to be learning and growing and fighting for his children, finally, after being an enabler for so long. he mostly likely has the children, and it seems like he’s on the right page, as far as making sure the kids stay in therapy and getting trauma informed himself, but will he ever take, if he has or ever will, the blame for his part in all of this. i hope the regret keeps him up at night and he never stops feeling the guilt and it makes him want to continue improving himself as a parent. i personally think he has a shot being a good parent, especially with ruby out of the picture, and HOPEFULLY, having undergone some therapy of his own. but does he truly, REALLY, understand that he is to blame almost as much as ruby. i wonder if shari’s book will touch on her dad’s role in this, and whether or not he takes responsibility for it. i just hope he constantly uses his past mistakes as a reason to continuously better himself as a parent and a person. but i do think there’s hope for him, unlike ruby.