AITAH for telling boyfriend he raped me and I don’t want to have sex for a while.

Me 24f and my 33m boyfriend have been together for maybe 5 months. I moved him in with me 2 weeks after we met. I know my fault. But a week or so ago he had a “spot” pop up on his tool. I’m am not a doctor but my guess was herpes. We still haven’t been tested. I know we’re not smart. But that’s not the point. We had sex for the first time since this “spot” has popped up and half way through he takes the condom off and doesn’t say anything to me about it. When we switch positions I notice that there’s not a condom in his tool. I asked him what happened to the condom, and he says idk. So I freak out thinking it’s inside of me some where and start to stick my fingers in me to look for it. Maybe 3 mins of me looking for it he “magically” found the lost condom under his leg and has no idea how it got there. So I press him some more and he then told me that I told him to take it off. I never would have done that. Am I the ass hole for telling him that he raped me and that I’m not comfortable having sex for a while.