aitah for not calling myself a “cis-girl”
i’m 17f. a few weeks ago or something, a boy at my school was trying to get with me, but i respectfully declined because he was trans and im not attracted to trans people
some of his friends/some of our mutual friends tried to call me homophobic or transphobic or whatever for rejecting him, and this kind of started an argument because i said im not anything phobic since being straight isn’t a choice the same way being trans isn’t
then the other day, my “friend” nadia (18f) brought it up again, even though the whole thing was literally over and started a whole debate. and i literally just said “im not homophobic.” and so then we had a whole back and forth like
nadia: “then are you an ally?”
me: “i don’t know. i think that everyone deserves rights, so i guess so”
nadia: “well do you identify as an ally?”
me: “i don’t really identify as anything, im a girl who likes boys.”
nadia: “sooo you identify as a cis girl then”
me: “no, just a girl.”
nadia: “well are you trans? because if you’re not then you’re cis”
me: “why do i need to put cis in front of it??? i was born a girl, ive always been a girl, so im just a girl.“
and then nadia said that i was totally transphobic and a performative activist that probably didn’t even care about trans rights. i didn’t really think so but her and some other ppl are saying that im implying that “trans girls aren’t real girls”. idk, aita???
edit 2: there’s a couple things i should probably maybe add so ppl can stop barking at me
i was raised in a very strict and conservative immigrant christian household, so maybe some of the things i said can come off as phobic, but it’s just how i was brought up ig. srry about that, ill try n do better
if nadia sounds like rage bait, its cuz she is. like she exists to piss me off, and she always does stuff like this. she literally got mad at me n my other friend (we’re both african) for saying the n word…
i wasn’t asking if im an ah for rejecting the trans boy, i know im not. i was asking if im an ah for not calling myself cis. if i am, im sorry, i actually follow some trans girls on youtube n stuff so i didn’t mean to be offensive and everything.
again, thank you for all the (actual) responses!! and if u only came to complain about how “fake” the post is, dont even bother, literally nobody cares ❤️
eta: do not use my confusion as an excuse to be a weirdo in the comments or my messages. stop saying slurs, im not with that at all.
edit again: im absolutely deleting this soon. a lot of the replies have started to get rlly weird/rude/annoying, and then there’s also some rlly triggered adults coming into my dms to literally curse me out soooo…thx for all the genuinely productive feedback (for or against me) tho xx!!