AITA for not supporting my chronically unemployed Fiance?

I f(31) have been with Fiance m(36) for about 6.5 years. Employment is a sore spot for him. In the beginning he was finishing his masters (MBA) and we both found work around same time. He lost it during the pandemic. Since then he has switched jobs twice. His most recent job he lost in August 2023 because he didn't want to come in person (hated boss& 45-55 min commute) However, I had to commute by trains/walk without complaint.

I get not being happy with your job, I was in the same position. So I made sure to find a new job ASAP. I can’t  respect him blowing off requests to show up and even warning him that if he lost his job I would end it. Soon enough, he was terminated.

He made no plan to protect himself/seriously apply to jobs or save a rainy day fund before this. We’d fight because he would spend stupid money on recreational stuff. He and his family called me crazy, nitpicking and controlling.

Lease up in 4 months and I didn't feel comfortable signing another lease when he had no job (couldn't even afford his own car insurance.) He had a cavalier attitude about everything because he was under the impression that his family would help him financially.

By December he hadn't found any work and so I moved back home and  under direction of his mom he moved close to her and got an expensive apartment that they would split. He prolonged this unemployment process by focusing all efforts on another certification. So from January-June he wasn’t really applying.  This October he got work but it didn't last, he is unemployed now. He’s a hardworker btw. 

I do not make enough money to support us both and with the current president, my job might not exist soon. I’m disheartened by his actions. He accepts my unwillingness to split expenses with him. But again his family thinks I’m the ass.

I love this man so much but his lack of planning and financial recklessness has brought me to the brink. I am tired of being embarrassed with the "when are you getting married?" question when he cannot even manage to take care of himself.

Am I the asshole for not being a ride or die?