Did I overreact?

I (36F) went out on a second date with this man (43M) I’ve been talking to for a while. At the end of the date, we kissed.

Next day he tells me, “are you gonna be mad when you get sick?”, I was like “what are you talking about?” .. He said, he’s still recovering from a flu, and admits that he thought about telling me, but he didn’t because he didn’t want me to stop the kiss .. He said it occured to him towards the end of the kiss, but decided it was late anyway, and he was enjoying the kiss ..

I told him “I wish you had told me when you had the thought, and not kept on going for the sake of the kiss, it would’ve showed me you cared about me, and at least you would have given me the decision whether I want to risk getting sick.” I told him, “I told you 30 minutes before that, I have a work trip in a week and I’m giving a talk at a conference”.

He said, “you take everything so seriously, you’re so dramatic, it’s not like I’m giving you a serious illness. My son infects me all the time and it’s not a big deal”.

I told him, it’s courtesy and respect to inform someone you’re sick before exchanging bodily fluids ..

He said I’m exhausting. That I make him feel horrible.

I’m sitting for the past two days wondering if I’m insane over here ..

All I look for is emotional safety with a man, that I can trust him. And if I communicate a concern, for him to hear me out, and not shut me down.