Guys using “physical intimacy” as a euphemism for sex?
I saw this post on the “nicegirls” subreddit (I know I shouldn’t engage) that was about this girl who flipped out on a guy once he said to her that “physical intimacy” was important to him while they were talking about their relationship needs/desires.
Basically she was like “communication and respect are important and I like going on dates and trying new types of food” and he was like “oh same yeah. Communication is key, also physical intimacy.” Once he said that, she had a meltdown and accused him of being just like all the other guys she had interacted with who use whatever they can to introduce sex into the conversation. All the comments are harping on the fact that she acted super crazy and took things way too far as a result of him saying that, which I AGREE WITH.
But, as a woman, I genuinely feel the man was being slick and trying to introduce sex into the conversation. Not justifying her behavior, but am I wrong in clocking that? Like, sure, physical intimacy could be holding hands, a kiss on the cheek, a hug… but in the context of what’s “important to you in a relationship” during a conversation between two people who haven’t even met in person …. I’m just finding it hard to believe he didn’t mean sex.
Generally I hate feeling like women will have a collective experience and men will just be like “no hunny you’re overreacting. I didn’t mean it like that,” which devolves into this circlejerk of “women are SO CRAZY AMIRITE???”