Am I spoiling my toddler?

I have a 19 month old, I work full time and I miss her a lot when she's at daycare. When we're at home I try to be more responsive and tend to her needs. She's a velcro baby turned velcro toddler who's very content just sitting on my hip while I go about my day.

This is not always feasible though ( like when I'm prepping food, or in a work call). In such times I'd like my husband to step in and take her ( and she willingly accepts him), but he says I'm spoiling her and I should just leave her down in a safe spot and let her cry while I'm busy.

We also have disagreements on how to handle tantrums. Obviously I don't give in, but I don't see the harm in validating her feels and trying to comfort her, if she will let me. He says I should just ignore her and let her deal with it.

Am I spoiling her?

ETA: thank you all for reminding me to go with my instincts and love my baby the way I see fit! It's not going to spoil her.