Rant - People shouldn’t comment on what you want to buy for your baby

My partner and I are expecting our little girl in about 6 weeks and we’ve been slowly accumulating the things we think we need like clothing, furnitures and wipes etc. We have the baby shower in a couple weeks where we would probably get more of these things too.

All I’ve been hearing for weeks/months now is “oh you won’t need that, babies only need a few pieces of clothing, babies don’t need a lot of wipes, you won’t need a bassinet, just carry them everywhere if they fall asleep on you, just cosleep in the bed with them,, you won’t need a sleep sack/swaddle” and the list goes on and on to the point where my partner is now agreeing with them because they didn’t use these things for their babies. Most of the clothing we have are hand me downs and haven’t even bought more than 15 pieces across newborn to 18 months. My sister and mother live in different countries to me so I mostly talk excitedly to his family and my friends about the very few things we still need to complete the nursery etc like a bassinet or cosleeper or a changing mat, baby monitor - all I’m met with is people raining on my parade and really taking the joy out of preparing for my baby to arrive with the things I want to get to make my life more convenient such as a bassinet for the downstairs area.

It really just grinds my gears being shut down whenever someone says this shit to me and it makes me feel like I’m being over the top and wasting my money. It’s very disheartening and irritating at the same time

ETA: We’re both 28years old and expecting our first. I must add in that even though there is a hype to buy all the best of the best and all the cool gadgets for babies that even I have been so tempted to do, I’ve been hearing about how I won’t need this or that for so many months. The things we’ve got so far is a cot (bought second hand), a pram (gifted by mil), a breast pump (much to their horror because why), bags of hand me down clothing but literally only 5 outfits per growing stage and most are summer clothing and most are for 9months+ so not useful in the immediate future anyway. I’ve bought 15 packs of wipes on Amazon (1x bulk offer), one bottle, 4-5 baby washes on Amazon, three towels and a few wash cloths, maybe 10 outfits between NB and 12 months (clearance rack mostly just to avoid being old I’m wasting money) and a small baby bag (“a regular backpack would work just fine”).

That’s it. No nursing chair/pillow, diapers, frilly outfits, swaddles, sterilisers, etc. So I do feel pretty unprepared and the anxiety that gives me makes me feel a little b*tchy and defensive when I’m constantly hearing everything I won’t need from family and friends. I will definitely be keeping most of what we have now for the second baby and I probably won’t be as open about my pregnancy with people that time around just to avoid stuff like this which is sad because I’ve been so excited about this since we found out around 5 weeks.

Thank you for everyone’s input, advice, different perspectives etc 🙏🏻 The comments have made me feel validated and have made me see things from different perspectives too.