Plan on dating soon: Looking for someone who can train my conversation skills (No gender preference, Preferably extroverted, has relationship experience, willing to be friend with me, doesn't have workload like MATH 481+CSC 453+ CSC 466, blonde/brunette: this one matters least) Will pay if necessary
I am currently friend with ~3 girls, all typical Cal poly Blonde/brunettes, and I have eaten out/gone to front porch with them. My ultimate goal/concern is not really about whether I end up getting 1 of them, but mainly to increase my personal values in order to attract girls in general. I've been working hard to increase my personal values that is still possible to improve, such as working out(I used to be slim like a stick, now barely have some muscles), raising my confidence and the tone I talk (before I couldn't even look at people in the eyes), learning about female psychological mechanics on youtube, and learning about the fundamentals of dating, listing out 100+ sentences and how to reply back on google docs. After some encounters with my female friends, I've come to realize a significant personal shortcoming: my conversational skills. Frequently, I find myself in situations where I become stuck and struggle to continue or expand on the conversation because I don't know what to say next, which makes the situation awkward. I feel like this is the thing that lowers my attractiveness the most, not my look. Even though I learned a lot about how to talk to girls or anyone in general, I feel like I still need someone to train me, as I believe this skill lacks a general formula. Even though I listed out 100+ of what she say & how you reply, irl the things she says is way more than 100, so the range I cover with my cheat sheet is approaching 0%, and most of the time you need to initiate the conversation, not waiting for them to speak first. Just like in CSC 349 even if you know clearly what is a bipartite graph, how error correcting code works, you still might not be able to solve some questions, because they require flexible mathematical thinking, which is about mathematical maturity, a very general skill. The training I am looking for is not just giving me broad advice, such as "do this, do that, don't do this, don't do that", but more like giving me some actual examples that's possible to encounter irl, and see how I speak back, and give comments about the way I talk and what could I say instead to make it better. Background info: I'm a typical junior CS+math boi, 5"8.25, kinda slim, not ugly at all, but far away from hot. I'm kinda weird: really shy and introverted to people that I'm not friend with, but talk a lot to people I'm super close with. I dropped CSC 430 so my time is a bit more flexible now. Right now I sort of have a big picture of my life plan in the future. ~10 years, and I decided that the best time to date and find a gf is in college. Reason being: 1. A lot of girls have no past relationship experience, which lowers the difficulty significantly 2. Right now money is not in the equation. The mean of attraction is not money, but your personality, which is good because if you attract girls by money, they will end up leaving you also because of money 3. More time together until marriage, making relationship stable (My parents were middle school classmates, and their relationship has remained exceptionally strong. Throughout my entire life, I've never witnessed them engage in a major argument.) 4. The younger, the better (treat it as a joke) If anyone is interested in giving me a personal training (mostly prefer in person at SLO), pls dm me or add me discord thediddler#42069