Non-practicing Husband

TW: Spiritual Abuse, SA survivorship

My husband and I come from strong Catholic families but each fell away from the Church in our 20s. I found out that he suffered spiritual abuse and SA at the hands of a liturgical minister when he was an altar boy. I was very angry on his behalf and stayed away for a long time.

I started returning to my faith when my son was born. My husband has not, and I worry that, due to his trauma, he never will. It doesn’t help that the church I attend is the one where we grew up and he suffered the grooming and the spiritual abuse.

I would be sad but willing to change parishes if I thought it would help him, but when I’ve floated that idea he’s turned it down.

I worry about his soul. I worry about my son. I’ve tried giving it up to God, but I have this continuing feeling that there’s more I could be doing or something I haven’t thought of.

What would you do? Are there any novenas or saints I can be asking for intercession from?

Coming forward probably won’t help as the perpetrator and priest who covered it up are both deceased and defrocked.

Edit: He has had counseling for this. He’s not currently going, but I regularly, quietly encourage it.