I am not too involved in Enneagram, but I'd like to have interesting insights on this.

I'd like for you as well to say how you found your enneagram despite the said contradictions, since this post may help others as well.

I will go first

I am a Three, yet
- I do not overwork myself. I work only when I'm motivated (usually by how important the goal is), but never push my limits.
- I can also be introverted and rather choose alone time than with people (may be overstimulation though.) I did get described as charming during conversations on the other hand.
- I am not those "go-getters" and not constantly on the move to be productive and achieve things unless the end goal pleases me.

I found out I'm a three, because
- When I first read all Enneagram motivations the one that clicked the best with me was the Three description.
- I always want to prove others I'm so "highly skilled" at doing X, and disappointing them after they set those high expectations especially close ones is one of the worst things I could picture.
- The end goal I picture in getting something is mainly impressing others.
- When someone says anything to me that makes me look inferior/weirder in a way, even if I personally disagree with it, I adapted and changed the behavior (even if it's completely normal!) It took me 2 years to realize this unhealthy behavior so I stopped doing it.

I definitely do not want to be seen as incompetent by others which leads to me being harmed in a way.