Thoughts on this check-in to my estranged mom?
I’ve done a lot of work on myself to become less reactive and affected by my mom’s …behavior. I feel like it’s time to check in to see if she’s made any progress and see if there’s some chance of reconciling. She said she went to therapy, so I’m interested to hear what she learned. It’s possible she had only 1 or 2 sessions also which would be telling as well.
I have 2 questions- 1, how is this text? and 2, my stepdad and sister both essentially cut me off (when I was 2 months postpartum) due to my NC with my mom. Even if I reconcile with my mom, I couldn’t look at them the same. Their behavior truly disgusts me. I did nothing bad to them, I overcompensated being overly nice and accommodating to them, but they just said they’re done with me.
This is the text:
“Hi Mom, I hope you’re doing well. I’ve been reflecting a lot on things, and I want to be thoughtful about how I move forward. I know you’ve been in therapy, and I’d like to better understand what that process has been like for you. Would you be open to sharing how long you’ve been going, what you’ve been focusing on, and what changes you feel you’ve made?
For now, I’m only comfortable communicating in writing, so I’d appreciate if we could keep this over text.”