Could you be in a relationship with an anti-zionist?

My boyfriend runs in leftist circles and while he acknowledges that Israel has a right to exist and believes in a two state solution, he has a friend group of staunch anti-zionists that frequently make inflammatory comments about Israel. He expresses that he wants to learn more about Judaism and appreciates that part of my identity/wants me to feel safe, yet I find him excusing some of his friends gross comments about Israel because of the “genocide”. I feel super morally conflicted because I don’t agree with the Israeli government, but I feel these comments are threatening to my safety and identity as a Jewish person in this relationship. We both want to feel morally secure and safe. What do I do/how can I communicate this to him? It feels uncomfortable because I am an American Jew with no direct connection to Israel by family, but I still feel really defensive and isolated surrounding this topic.