My wife won't be physical with me

We dated for 3 years, then 3 years in long distance relationship. We had sex often while we dated. After 6 years of being in a relationship, we got married. We had sex only once after the wedding. It's been a year since the wedding. She gives me handjobs and blowjobs. But does not let me touch her. She is always fully clothed. It's like she does the minimum possible thing to keep my mouth shut and not let me feel frustrated. The second time we tried to have sex, she wanted me to not use a condom. If I say "let's have a baby", I am 100% sure she'll be in on having sex. It feels like she wants to use me only to have a baby. Is this common?