Therapist claimed I have parts of NPD in my BPD?

This was a year ago and Im reflecting. I used to always date NPD people and see them as complete demons due to what they caused. Im also pretty sure my mom has narcissistic traits? To protect herself I guess. We both had traumatic childhoods to the point of a book being written on my moms life & I really don’t know who I am. After a really traumatic event I ended up in the closed psychward over a year ago. For context Im autistic and I have received all kinds of diagnoses like BPD, OCD and C-PTSD. We had a really problematic old group therapist who was known to slut shame women a lot and in general she was led by a lot of strong patriarchal norms and misogyny… She asked me why I don’t participate in group activities and exclude myself. I told her I struggle with it because of being autistic. Sometimes I don’t see the point in socialising. At a young age tests were done on me because I showed extraordinary behaviour and abilities in school. They diagnosed me with savant syndrome and being extremely smart. I always felt superior and was frequently reduced to being better and smarter while constantly being punished for any symptoms of autism. I ended up going down the addict path at a very young age and only got reduced on my „average looks“ from then on. I liked socialising with people that seemed to have the same amount of intelligence and I always struggled with empathy? Id also lie a lot in my favour but ONLY if it didn’t impact anyone negatively.

Currently I learned that I do like having friends. I can love people even though they’re not „as smart“ and I do like talking to people. Im very manipulative and I do look down on people sometimes but its very intrusive. Im the kind of person to approach u on the middle of the street because I thought the colour of ur scarf fits u well yk? I never saw my traits as negative towards others.

I don’t think its as easy as putting a label on someone and thats it. Perhaps I developed narcissistic traits to protect myself from all the bullying I went through? I always wondered how people with NPD feel since most of my abusers were NPD and they never seemed to mean any good. Maybe we aren’t as different as I thought?

The therapist also claimed Im not autistic which made me completely reject her theory of me being NPD too. But there are different degrees right? Im not a demon so I thought it couldn’t be.

I just see myself as deeply traumatised. Love is important to me. I learned to give before I take. I recently learned to even have body contact with my friends and tell them I love them. Never have I had issues with animals but humans were hard to show affection and empathy to. Did my mom hug me enough? She tells me she was a good mom, I know that isn’t true. She tried her best tho.