The good and bad side of parasocial relationships

I thought it was worth posting about the good as well as bad side of PR’s. I’ve had a few parasocial relationships myself and they seem to be the only type that work out or at least in my case! I find they are the only escapism from the disappointing reality of real life relationships. My last real relationship was abusive and I think that’s why I have had only had PR’s after that

Don’t get me wrong, PR’s are a very painful lonely existence but on the flip side it is a different type of pain to being hurt in real relationships. Your PR can be who you want them be in your mind, or at least that’s how it is for me. It really draws a line, and If that's your goal to give yourself a safe space from the negatives of real life, then they can be helpful. However the pain of wanting to be with your PR is something you can’t escape from sadly. If you are young and reading this try not to put them ahead of real relationships. In my case the last abusive relationship combined with undiagnosed autism was too much and was the real reason I gave up. PR’s seemed like the only safer option, even though it hurts like hell and makes me so sad when I think of the ring on his finger and the fact he has a wife. At the same time, I wouldn’t like to think of him alone and sad (as I am) never having a real relationship that worked out.

As for me, I just seem to go on living this pain day after day and there is not much I can do to change as I am unwilling to give up my PR. The big regret is I didn’t take an interest in the band before because then could have got something positive out of it such as going to see them live, which I am unable to do now because of poor health. Also if I had still been dating, I think my PR would have given me a better idea of the type of guy I find physically attractive. That’s my take on things but know it’s not the same for everyone. If you have read this far then thank you for reading.