Eye roll = no iPad

My daughter (10) has problems with being respectful especially with her mom. She won't talk to me in the same way but there are problems I correct her on with her tone with me.

I was talking to her this morning about her tone and... Eye roll. Then I said, no iPad today and maybe Friday if you don't straighten out. My wife thinks I'm too punitive. She's very lax hence why her daughter talks disrespectfully to her. Thoughts, advice? Am I handing this correctly? Too harsh, too soft?