Does any miscue or conflict with your child make you feel like a child abuser?

I feel that I parent just fine, if not great, 95% of the time. However, when I have moments of losing my cool or just not responding well, I feel like I am a child abuser. In reality, and in my rational mind, I know this is absolutely untrue and I am not at all. I'm experiencing what every other normal parent on earth does. I mean that emotionally I feel that bad. Has anyone suffered with this? Anyone made it through? What kind of work have you done to not feel this extremely when you have mini fails?