[Routine Help] Excessive Routine for a 10 Year Old?

I originally posted this in r/Autism_ Parenting, and was suggested to post here too.

My (29M) daughter's mom (28F) told me that I need to follow the posted steps when she is with me as part of her "everyday routine." I'm genuinely trying to find out if this seems to be an excessive routine, or if other mom's would agree with her that this is a reasonable skincare routine. In all honesty, I cannot imagine her mom actually doing this every day.

Mom also told me that I "need" to start putting our daughter's hair up in some way, shape or form. The first thing my girl does when she gets in my car is take off her hair ties, cause she prefers to keep the hair down and I'd rather her just be comfortable. I've told mom this but she demands I still put it up to prevent it from being a "tangled mess" since she has curly hair. I've always preferred to just let her be comfortable, and if that's only with her hair down, then that's how it'd be.

To add, our daughter has never expressed interest in doing any kind of skincare herself. I will need to take a much closer look at her face next time I see her, but I only recall seeing a pimple or two at best, not enough for me to call it a "break out." | do detangle her hair after shower time, and give her breaks when it becomes too much for her. I use de-curling cream and a conditioner mom gave me to try and make it easier for her.

I may be too chill/ignorant about it because I am a guy. Thoughts?