Touching your dick during pegging

Am I doing this wrong? When I am getting pegged, I don’t want to have my dick touched or jerked. I want to enjoy the anal sex part of it for a while before blowing my load. I think I’m trying to find the hands free O. But it never comes. Should I change my plan to get pegged for a while and then when she gets close to being done is when she should stroke my cock until I cum.