My colleagues call me a “pick me” girl and spread rumours about me which greatly affected my self image. (UPDATE 2)

Hello! For anyone curious about the story, two parts are attached on this profile!

Update: You guys! So much happened these days, I dont even know where to start. Also, I am sorry this is very anticlimactic story, not what most of yall probably wanted to hear and I am sorry I didnt answer everyones DM’s. I got no time.

Two parts of update: 1st update abt colleagues - I got a call, management didnt make me much fuss, they decided to let them go because they cannot keep someone who did an actual crime and that FO seems to hold grudges. Btw im on good terms with woman from management with whom I talked to and she informally told me that management knows that FO will make them troubles. So its cheaper to let go of them now than to have to deal with him in the future.

Update 2, personal, since some of u really wanted to know and sent private messages

Okay so basically, I had flight on tuesday to Germany and had layover till thursday.

During this flight and layover, I was not with FO on flight as we never get flight together outside of China lane. However, cabin manager (lets call him Guest Director GD for short) is one of my bosses on flight who sometimes is on lane for China. He is with us like 40-30% of the time.

Anyway, when this entire situation happened, pretty much entire group that goes to China frequently found out abt what happened and it was clarified that FO and I are not together.

Anyway, on my layover in Munich, I was again doing as I usually do, gaming in the lobby when GD came over. He watched me play and we talked a bit. When I finished the match, he asked me if I would like to go bowling with him. We were always distant friendly on flights, he would sometimes be with us in lobby but we never spent 1-1 time.

Anyway, I left to my room, got rdy, met him in lobby at around 8:30 pm, we went, did bowling till like 10:30, then he suggested we go eat something, bla bla, Ill spare you the details, GD asked me to confirm to him if I was with FO, I told him no and why is he asking.

He said he liked me from one event that happened a while ago, wont go into detail, but he said he always thought that I was actually with fo but nobody brought it up, turns out everyone just thought that.

I was a bit stunned for a moment, I told him that I am flattered. He asked me if I liked him, I told him that I do find him attractive and charming, which he really is, but that right now I am going through a lot of stress and he caught me of guard.

He was very chill about it, he continued to flirt with me through out the night in very non-pushy manner. Very light, almost playful flirts. We saw each other again on friday.

Friday night comes, im at home, I did some gaming, FO was online with 3 other ppl, I entered the call, we did little gaming, didnt talk much.

He was very reserved, answered shortly. I later called him privately to ask what’s up, he says he’s busy right now.

I ask him to call me back when he’s done. He did not.

Sunday, we have China lane. On flight he didnt acknowledge me. During layover I was alone, he did not appear in the lobby. So I tried calling him, no answer. I went to reception, asked FO’s room number, as they already know us well, she gave it to me in trust.

I go to his room and ngl, on the way over there, I was nervous what or whom I’ll find in his room. I knock, he’s alone. I asked him if theres something wrong, he says that there is. I asked him to talk, he told me to go away from his room and wait him in the lobby.

Anyhow, I asked him what is up, why is he being distant. He says he thinks its inappropriate for him to be around me further more. I was confused, he then explains everything by simply asking me if I had fun time in Munich. I felt like I am in a relationship and just got caught cheating.

I ask him what does that have to do with anything and who told him about it? He tells me that it has everything to do with it and that unlike -he says word in his language which is basically an insult to a man, like calling another man - not man- GD, he does not run after a woman who is with another guy.

Turns out he knew about Munich, he knew about our date in base and he was bitter about it + it appears that GD and FO have some beef from before.

I asked him if he viewed me more than just a friend, he gave me a look “you stupid or something?” And asked me if I was kidding.

I told him I genuinely had no idea. He then brought up bunch of stuff he did for me that, when he says it, does make it obvious but when you’re being me, it wasnt obvious. I asked why he never told me. He said he made such obvious moves around me and I never reciprocated not even a bit and when I went with GD with no hesitation, no thought how it might look to him, he figured I had no interest in him and wanted the other guy so he simply left me alone.

I told him that I was not with the GD, he told me that had it been just random one time on layover going out, okay, but I went again when I reached base, I obviously was into him. I just stared at him, I mumbled that I am not WITH him and that nothing had happened and he got annoyed, he snatched my phone from the table, unlocked as he knew the password, opened first active social media app and found GD’s chat right at the top. He turned the phone, showed me and said “last text 40 mins ago. Thats all I need to know. I wont be anyones afterthought”.

I was shocked to say the least (still am). This guy does not look like someone who would go for me at all.

I stupidly asked him if that’s it, he said thats it. I was dumbfounded and I dont know why, I just stood up, took my phone like an idiot and walked away. I am still processing the whole situation, dont know what to think, feel or do. After this conversation, I just feel like I got punched in the guts. Just few days ago I was not even considering that we were a possibility.

I am still here. I have no1 to talk to about this so I am just venting here.

On breakfast, he sat very far away from me, did not look at me. I feel sick to my stomach. 4pm, I havent seen him around at all.