Mothers, how do you celebrate your kid's birthday?

One of my colleagues rented a hall and celebrated his daughter's first birthday like it was a wedding. There were dancers, 'entry' for the bday girl with songs, lighting, the whole shebang. And ofcourse, gifts and food.

I've been thinking about how sometimes parents might feel pressured to celebrate birthdays in a grand fashion because the kid's friends might have had similar celebrations. Not saying everyone does it due to peer pressure, but I believe it does exist. They might want their kid to be liked by the other kids and to have a good image in front of the other parents.

I'll have a child in another 5 years or so, but I always thought I'd celebrate my child's birthday at home, with a birthday cake and snacks for the kids. Seeing how much effort other parents put into their kid's birthday makes me feel guilty(?) for wanting to do it lowkey.

I'm also afraid that my child would be singled out by the other children due to these things. I want her to have a good childhood with good friends and I'm afraid my insistence on not getting pressured into having big celebrations for a birthday might affect her happiness.

Idk why I'm thinking so much about a child I don't even have, I don't even have a husband for God's sake 😭 But how do you guys celebrate your kid's birthday? Have you had these thoughts and how do you deal with them?