Partner wants me to stop masking

My relationship has been 10+ years and the only thing we really disagree about is covid.

Currently, if my partner wants to do some risk taking activity like go to bars, etc. we sleep in separate rooms for 5 days.

At first, we did that and both wore n95s in our common living area. Then he didn’t want to and wore KN95s. Then he didn’t want to and doesn’t mask. We sleep in separate rooms and I wear an n95.

Now, he wants me to not mask at all. And do indoor dining. I don’t feel comfortable with that and would prefer outdoor activities.

We went to couples therapy virtually (a therapist who understood COVID cautions) about this and I feel like he just said what the therapist wanted him to say/went through the motions.

Then, it blew up later.

He just wants to “get back to normal” and “live life” and I want to feel safe.

Now he wants to do couples counseling again with a different therapist that he’s picked out but in person and does not want to wear a mask in the therapy sessions. The therapist wouldn’t be masked either.

He also brought up living separately but he also said if he goes into office (he said he’s not going to mask) it will be pointless because I will never see him (if I wait 5 days from his last exposure). He said that is not a real relationship. Currently, we wfh.

I don’t stop him from doing anything he wants. He’s free to do what he wants and I wear a mask after that. But he wants me to stop masking on my side and join him. I want my half of protecting myself.

He knows the risks of covid and has gotten it multiple times and feels “fine”. I’ve had some difficult health issues that seemed like long covid. I’ve never tested positive. (I know it still could be LC).

His patience/tolerance for me taking COVID precautions has run out. He said “It’s become a problem.”

I’m also neurodivergent and I don’t think I will ever stop taking COVID mitigations unless COVID literally stops. I want to protect myself. He’s neurotypical and wants to do what everyone else is doing. (He said that.)

How are other people handling this situation?