How to find a woman who wants an affair

I am in a DB situation with a wife of 30 years who decided to end sex. She is an evangelical christian and our libidos were mismatched from the dtart. No sex in over 13 years which i now find intolerable but the idea of divorce is hard as we otherwise have a good life but i miss the intimacy as well as sex.. Hook up sites including AFF and AM have poor reviews as scam sitrs. In the UK we have fabswingers but married men are seen as immoral and women avoid you. I would like an AP with a married woman in a similar situation but how do you find her? AM is expensive and men comment it is full of fake acvounts and bots. Ive decided that an affair is what i want with a woman i can form a connection with. How does a man go aboit this particulary in England? Online affairs are an alternative but often aimed at the technology competent. How do you telegram? Any help to get me started is much appreciated.