Tell me your stories about approaching people in the wild… scary or not??

I get a decent amount of male attention but am really shy at first. I’m terrified of broaching the subject of a relationship with someone who may be disgusted once they find out I’m married. I keep imagining worst case scenario and keep my distance. I’ve answered a few ads here and posted one of my own briefly but didn’t find a solid connection (admittedly I’m picky). How was it for you meeting someone “in the wild”? Were they disgusted? Did you get rejected? Were they kind about it? Or was it enough of a build up that you knew it would work out? I’m looking to gain some courage here or get the thought out of my head altogether.