Sex with SO after meet up with AP

Particularly curious of the women on here but all perspectives welcomed - do you try to hold off having sex with your SO after you’ve met up with your AP? If so, how long?

Also, how do you find sex with your SO now that you’re having an affair?

I’m asking because I recently met up with my long distance AP and in the days after my husband was relentlessly wanting sex. Sorry this might be TMI but I kept making excuses for us not to because a) honestly I am a bit sore down there b) there was still cum in me 😅 c) I just don’t have the desire to do it after being so thoroughly satisfied by my AP

Me and SO have sex pretty regularly 2x per week (sometimes more or less, depends on how busy the week is). The sex is not good. I won’t go into details but there’s no passion. I’m finding it hard to enjoy it even more so now. Do you feel the same after meeting with AP?