How do you tease your AP ?

If you look at my post history, I’m the one who has a once a year steamy encounter with my colleague. It’s been like this for more than 10 years. We talked about it and we both agreed that it should not escalate to a point it breaks our respective lives. We both have wonderful partners…we both acknowledge that it’s really bad, but we can’t help it.

Usually, it happens when we come home late from the christmas job party. We kiss lightly, hold hands, rub our legs, head to head. It’s slow, it’s soft, it’s oh so goddamn hot. And before you say anything, we will never sleep together, or be naked together in any degree. That’s the hard line we drew. We’ve been holding it for a decade so I’m confident it won’t change for a while. I’m not sorry if you find my situation tame in comparison to yours. I like it that way!

The first few times, it was just so new and the anticipation was just so high that it was hard to really stay grounded and be aware….if that makes sense ? This year, we had plenty of time alone and it was less in a hurry. I took time circling my fingers on his hands and wrists. I slightly brushed his hair, neck, earlobe, used my mouth to caress his forehead. He did similar things. But then, he did something new. I was wearing a skirt and a blouse. He slid two fingers in the opening of my blouse, between two buttons and just brushed gently my ribcage, at the frontier of my bra. He removed his fingers when I started breathing too heavily. Later, when we were waiting for my bus to arrive, he just stood close to me, put his hand under my skirt and rested his hand just at the intersection of my leg and asscheek. Nothing more.

Guys. What the fuck. I have no where else to talk about this. None of my previous partner ever teased me 10% to what happened with my colleague that night. This whole thing is better than sex itself. After the fact, I realized I’m not used to this kind of creativity in teasing. I want to do the same for him, but none of my previous partners liked teasing and foreplay so…let’s say my training is minimal to that regard.

Due to a work restructuration, we have two Christmas parties this year. The second one is happening soon and I know for a fact there will be a part two. I want to come prepared hahaha. How can I tease him without going straight to town ? What are your go to moves ?? The only thing I can think of is using my feet under the dinner table.