Dating an AP after divorces. A cautionary tale.

What a damn mess. I met someone on Ashley Madison a couple of years ago. I felt guilty about cheating and wasn’t happy in my marriage, so I left my husband of 19 years in January. I told AP that I didn’t want to date a married man anymore.

He left his wife of 22 years, and moved 3 doors down to be closer to me. We were inseparable as we both navigated the divorce process together.

Things started rapidly deteriorating a few months ago. I realized that he didn’t respect me at all. He asked me if I wanted to have a 3 way with another man and him. I asked if he would’ve asked his ex wife that, and he said no. He also bought me a $50 necklace from Amazon for Christmas. He is wealthy. She got a $4,000 rowing machine last Christmas. We also had terrible trust issues. I didn’t believe a word that came out of his mouth. I always assumed the worst about him. I accused him of cheating regularly.

We finally ended things last night, and I am going to have to see him on a regular basis. I am emotionally invested and sad. It was so unhealthy to jump into another relationship so soon, but even worse to have done it with an AP. This feels worse than the actual divorce. Of course I’m not going to trust a cheater, and he will never trust me.