This business is a mind fuck sometimes

I'm not one for labels, but I suppose I may be called a cake eater. My bedroom goes through dry spells, punctuated by maintenance sex, with the occasional "fuck, that was hot, why can't we do that more often" sex. It doesn't help that I'm still attracted to my wife and that she has some strange behaviors when it comes to sex. We're currently in a sort of sexual rebound..... that has just left me scratching my head.

For example, about three months ago my wife was wearing this dress I really like. Complete with tights and these little ankle boots. We had been at a brunch that morning and had returned home. We're in our bathroom for some reason and I told her how good she looked. One thing led to another and in about three minutes she's on the bathroom counter with my face buried between her legs. Huge orgasm for her. I clean up the puddle while she gets off the counter, pulls her tights up, and announces she really needs to go to Target. I was kinda dumbfounded but hey, I'm glad she enjoyed that. I figured we could pick up later where we left off. And if I'm being totally honest, the fact that she kinda used me was a bit of a turn on.

Except later never comes. She's tired, she's busy, whatever. Except the next weekend, she starts coming on to me when I'm trying to take a nap. Big orgasm for her while she's grinding on my thigh and then announces she's late for meeting a friend so she'll let me take my nap now. I protest and she promises to make it up to me later.

Later comes the following weekend. I suppose it was all the pent up frustration, but holy hell, it was hot. Missionary with the lights off, of course, but I think my soul left my body along with about a gallon of semen. Clean up on aisle seven, lol.

Shortly after that episode, my on-again, off-again AP/FWB says she wants to meet up. She likes all the things my wife does not, so I wasn't going to say no. And she kind of has a spell on me. All the things were done, and it was good, but not great. Or at least not as good as the last time with my wife. And her husband is getting transferred so that's coming to an end pretty soon.

Meanwhile, sex appears to have dried up again at home. She's back to seemingly having zero interest in sex or me.

I really don't want to go back to the search. Ugh. Anyone know of a way to be satisfied with good sex once every 6 to 9 months? Lol.

And yes, I know that some of you make do with far less. Sometimes I think that would be less frustrating.