feeling pressured to be attached because of BTO

entering my late 20s and i am feeling so pressured to be attached. everyone around me is getting attached and applying for BTO. my mother kept hinting me to find a partner and asked me how many of my peers have gotten their BTO already. i cried by myself immediately after that question.

i did not witness a healthy relationship between my parents while growing up, which distorted my idea of what a relationship should be like. i have had past relationships but i ignored the red flags because they were normalised at home, which caused me to get hurt.

i have witnessed many people breaking up right before marriage after a long term relationship or staying in an unhappy relationship due to BTO.

i truly feel lost and upset. i think the system for BTO in Singapore is causing many relationships to fail and making myself feel more pressured to get in a relationship soon, although i am not totally ready for it. of course i do want to feel loved by someone but the practical housing reasons is pressurising me much more.

edit: thank you to those who have given your words of encouragement. i am truly comforted by them and i appreciate them very much. 🥹❤️

and to everyone else, of course, i will definitely not get attached just for the BTO. posted this because i feel pressured, upset and needed some affirmations (emotions problem, not logic problem). thanks to everyone for giving advice nonetheless!