How do I (Ironically cis guy) tell my MtF trans friend on discord that t4t is not chasing done by trans people themselves?

'I mean, it's not entirely a problem, sexuality and romance are weird like that, but you start to scratch the territory of "sexualising trans" territory by specific you want a trans partner specifically." -her, on the topic of BOTH t4t and c4t- (The c4t in this situation was a trans allegory character and a literally trans character ship)

I wanted to send a screenshot of a guy on twitter saying "T4T is like incest" to MAKE FUN of that guy, but that never happened since she sent a BOMBSHELL of a message like that

Also this prevented me from telling her one of the non-diegetic reason for a character in my story being incestuous.

It is to pit t4t against incest to make fun of that guy...

Anyways enough redundant information.

Is it JUST her that thinks of T4T as "Chasing done by trans people themselves" or are there more trans people who think the same?

If they existed how did you explain to them, that it's not "chasing done by trans people"?

Is such explanation compelling if done by a cis person and is sent to a trans person? (I am aware this is bordrline surreal)

Edit: apparently, the "T4T is incest" guy is not a guy, it's a woman