What Lilith really means in a natal chart

I have read lots of articles on how Lilith represents the hidden parts of you that are repressed or we feel ashamed of expressing to the world.

While this is true in some way, it can be mistaken for a wound, or sense of shame/guilt, when in reality it's much more powerful than that, and we know it too

Lilith is about "seeing the dark side" and always knowing that we have it and can fully abuse this skill (if we wanted to), whatever area it is placed in a natal chart.

So an Aries Lilith, for example, might really obsess about acts of kindness, be selfless, humanitarian, perhaps even a bit introverted. But they walk around with 6"5 with 300lbs of muscle as a sort of deterant but are fully capable of violence.

What is your lilith sign and how do you feel about it?