Anyone else experience something similar?

Hey everyone. I am autosexual as well as bisexual female. I have recently realized that I never liked men romantically, and was only attracted to them sexually if they are interested in me first. In contrast, I'm attracted to women romantically, but only sexually if they look like me or have similar traits.

For me to be even attracted to men sexually, they have to let me know that they are attracted to me first. THEN I will fantasize about them doing sexual acts with me. But if they lose interest in me, I also stop having an interest in them since it means they wouldn't be sexual with me. The fantasies are focused on me as well, and them more like a secondary thing.

With women, I actually want to care for them and protect them, my heart beats fast thinking of the woman I love and I get happy. The sexual fantasies are way more wholesome or non existent, and I am never initially sexually attracted to them UNLESS they look similar to me.

So what do you think? This was really complicated for me but I think my autosexuality has a huge role in how my relationships go.