Moms who gave birth in their late 30’s/early 40’s, did you get treated like this too? 🤦🏻‍♀️

Years ago, I had an unexpected pregnancy and miscarriage from a failed IUD (Mirena) that was an utter fiasco. Not sure if it was defective or if my gyno improperly inserted, but it led to horrible complications that weren’t handled properly. Since it was an early miscarriage, I mostly kept it to myself, but there’d be subtle comments about how maybe it was for the best because it probably would’ve been a difficult pregnancy anyway. Then I noticed patterns of negative treatment in regards to pregnancy/fertility of women 35+. Basically, people thinking you either can’t get pregnant at that age or if you miscarry or have complications it’s your own fault for having them at that age. Well here’s a shocker! Apparently, you can get pregnant naturally at 40 even when you were told otherwise. I’m expecting either to be told it’s a miracle or a nightmare at this age, but it’s way too early to tell anyone yet anyway. Posting here to get the real insight on pregnancy/motherhood at this stage instead of censored opinions and research. What were the most surprising, shocking or unexpected events and treatment during pregnancy and child birth? The things that no one talks about because it’s too controversial or has a stigma attached to the topic. Any input is appreciated!