I'm fed up with modern dating

Mid twenties single male here. Have only had one serious partner in my adult life, and that was over 5 years ago. This year I've been trying to find a serious romantic relationship, but today's dating world is beyond frustrating. I'm tired of online apps where I match with someone, talk for 2-3 days, then get ghosted out of the blue. I'm tired of being toyed around by the women on these profiles. More than anything, I'm fed up this whole hookup culture and the abundance of sex related content in our media. It's all designed to make single guys like me even lonelier and more desperate, while promoting a very shallow view of human intimacy. Three weeks ago now, I even managed to have a very spontaneous fling with a woman I met a party. The problem, though, is that we talked about hanging out more and things developing beyond a one night stand. That made me feel better in getting so heavy, so quick, because I thought it meant more to both of us. Cut to now, however, and she isn't responding to my messages, leading me to suspect she was being dishonest in her initial intent. I just want a good partner whose receptive, puts in effort and enjoys my company - is that so much to ask? Why is it that some people find love very young, and for others it is a never ending slog of false promises and what ifs? I don't even care if I get offered sex by a perfect 10 - I'm turning her down. I want connection, not transaction. I will not lower myself to being that vulnerable again.