Are good men existing?

I (35f)went on 3 dates with someone. Known them for 4 months. Had good time.. once he told me that im sometimes clingy. (I text him once a day) . Is it really clingy to text once a day?? I don't talk to him now..n nor did i see any efforts from him. How men pretend to be sooo sweet n nice when they are with you .but get bothered by one text a day..this made me question my personality... I work hard in life. Im al by myself in this country. I look good, earn good, stay busy in work n gym, friends. I don't understand what are these terms men have created "clingy", "demanding" "too talkative" ... Like, seriously.. if you wana know someone, how would you know them?? No texting,no calls?? Every weekend he had family meetup, or some work . Whenever he met, he was the sweetest person.. what are these confused traits men have!!! N then i was the one blamed . I feel like trash n used emotionally..