You're A Nice/Sweet Guy But...

I've heard this so many times growing up (when I'm not brutally/scornfully rejected by women) that I've come to hate the word nice and wonder is it code for "You're ugly" in order to let me down gently.

I just hate having to hear these words because I try to be myself and nothing works. Some will say fake it until you make it but I can't be something I am not.

Being in my mid 30s and never experiencing a gf or romantic encounter is soul destroying for me - moreso when trying to be the best version of myself is just not good enough.

I just feel defeated and at a loss.