Can someone explain Porteno culture in Buenos Aires? Have huge culture shock
Been here 2 weeks and made some friends, but I keep making faux pas with men and women alike. The culture is so different from the gringo bubble I lived in CDMX. My spanish is conversational, but the accent is poor.
What are some do's and dont's with acquaintances, friends, and romantic interests?
Some of my faux pas with acquaintances...
- asking about their heritage and if they have any indiginous blood (I studied indigineous american cultures so I find it interesting). They seemed a little offended and stated that they were european despite having the color of coffee.
- Asking the waiter how long my food would be after waiting 30 minutes. He seemed iritated and I won't be doing that again.
- Asking if there were other food choices besides empanada and asado in the palermo. They seemed to not know why I would want something different.
Some of my faux pas with new Friends...
- Asking them when we're gonna leave after sitting on their couch for 3 hours drinking fernet. They seemed like I was rushing them and that I was killing the vibe.
- Asked a married guy if that was normal for married people when he said that he was gonna kiss 5 girls that night
Some of my faux pas with romantic dates...
- Set up a date at 10 and when she didnt respond by 10:15, I left, and at 11 when she called me and yelled at me, I had to uber back. She was sweet about it but genuinely didnt' understand why I left.
- After a really good date until 5 in the morning and getting very intimate, I said I wanted to see her again soon, she just said maybe and I got the feeling that she thought I was super clingy.
- The next week we agreed to meet on a saturday and when she didnt respond, she sent me a message a few days later asking if I was angry. Kind of felt like she wanted me to be angry? Very confusing.