Targeting non-seminary kids. Thoughts?

I’ve been very PIMO and open about it to my oldest son, but we’ve still been at church as a nuanced family because my wife hasn’t been ready to let go. In the last few months we agreed to stop attending. We’ve talked to our kids and they are concerned about social aspects but feel good about the decision. Our son is in high school and we had him stay out of seminary this year. He is definitely fighting some mental battles deep in Morridor with kids talking about church stuff and calling him out for not going to seminary. He’s a stoic kid so he doesn’t bring this kind of stuff up easily and when he does, we know it’s serious to him. He recently joked about how great it was to “get all the cookies when the seminary does cookie day.” Apparently, once a trimester the seminary brings cookies and every kid takes one to give to a kid not attending seminary. He said he got 12 cookies last time. Meaning he was forced to have 12 conversations about how he isn’t like the supermajority in the school. On one hand I’m happy for an opportunity to discuss this situation with my son and teach him that cookies, superficial smiles and guilt about being a missionary is the Mormon way. On the other hand, I am so pissed and I want to raise some hell. Does this kind of stuff happen at your kids’ school. Thoughts?

TL;DR: seminary is giving member kids cookies to take and give to a kid they k ow doesn’t attend seminary deep in Morridor where it’s quite alienating to not attend seminary.