Dating my muslim classmate

Dating my muslim classmate

So theres this muslim girl her names Amira (but she goes by Amy) in my class who keeps swiching what she wears everyday. There are days where she shows up in school wearing full hijab and abaya dress and in other days she shows up having her hair out, wears a baseball cap backwards tomboyish style, skinny jeans, and short sleeved shirts. Whats weird is during the days she wears a hijab she never takes it off and during the days she doesnt wear hijab she never puts one on. First i thought she having an identity crisis She doesnt seem to be pressured or forced to wear hijab. But overall shes a nice and friendly outgoing person who even goes out of her way help us out woth our homework and even let us copy her during tests. Were not really that closed enough friends.

So i eventually asked her directly about her wardrobe choices. But to not anybodys surprised she went to class wearing a loose dress and hijab that fully covered her hair. and here i was trying to find the appropriate time to ask her about it she was looking quite unhappy and upset i figured maybe her parents really did force her to wear it so i went up to her and ask her if everything was okay. She told me shes really disappointed turns out she was applying for a scholarship for a statw university and it got turned down. She was up all night beating herself up about it she wanted to make her parents proud and surprise them but her score for the entrance were high but fell short. I wanted to console her but i didnt know what to say besides im sorry. So yeah this wasnt the right time to ask so i let it go.

Plus i wanted to cheer her up so i told another one of my friend whos very close to her about it and maybe to have a night out with the group to cheer her up. Grab some boba tea and stroll around the nightmarket at the boardwalk. So we convinced her to come with us later after class this is when she said she has to go home first to change her clothes since she cant go around dressed in the hijab and all and told us she'll meet us later. At this point i was really curious if her attire is supposed to reflect on her mood and current emotional state. Me and the gang my two best bros, one of my bros gf, my close gal friend, and her friend met up with her at the milk tea shop where now she was wearing a loose tshirt ripped jeans and baseball cap with her hair down. So we chatted and for a bit had a few laughs drinking our milktea i even offered to pay for hers. But it was pretty clear that she wasnt really happy so we took off and headed to the nightmarket and the broadwalk where we watched a live band play which i think lightened her up at bit as we all dance her cap fell off i picked it up and notice it it was a new era brand which i assume is pretty expensive i handed it to her telling her to be careful to not lose it. She put it back on, I took this chance to ask her about her fashion choice like have you ever worn the hijab and cap at the same time? she told me sometimes she does. Seeing her relaxed i straight up asked her how she sometimes dresses traditionally (i.e proper hijab, dress) and sometimes she doesnt. I was expecting her to get annoyed at my question but she handled it pretty well telling me that she just has to remind herself of her identity as to not stray off her religion. Hearing this i didnt push any further since i didnt wanna ruin the great night.

I had alot of other questions to ask her Like if she believed hijab is fard, or if her parents allow her to wear what she wants Or if shes really religious and prays daily But again i didnt wanna push my luck.

So a few days passed and she told me her parents are throwing her a birthday party (which puzzled me since arent celebrating birthdays haram) for her 20th birthday and shes inviting me and her friends over? That day she was wearing normal casual non hijabi clothes with her favorite cap that she always. Her parents pulled up to pick her up that day from school and saw us (and me next to her tbh i felt really intimidated being non mahram) but i was relieved that they just came to also invite us personally they looked pretty friendly and cordial her mom was wearing a hijab and her dad was wearing formal business attire. As they picked her from my observation theyre pretty loving parents as her gave them a hug as they arrived. After that i went to buy her a birthday gift which was just a monster baseball cap with a neat color scheme (but yeah its the thought that counts right).

Fast forward next day as she reminded about her party later she told us to wear something less casual. I jokingly asked her if she was gonna go to her own party dressed in regular street clothes too which she just laughed off as i greeted her a happy birthday. Me and my other classmates she invited including my friends went home to wear something proper i just opted for a polo shirt and went to the address she they gave me. Turns out her parents hired a small catering service on their backyard alot of food were placed in trays exquisite meals i couldnt tell who the other guests were probably her relatives or other family friends. Her parents gave us a warm welcome to their home to not make us feel out of place. Then she went out she looked really mesmerizing like she was wearing a full pink hijab and floral dress with that necklace or headlace thingy that was wrapped around her head. She thanked us for being able to make it she was so happy. I handed her my gift wishing her happy birthday again. Our there classmates also greeted her and gave their gifts. I was still shocked at how her family treated her. Her dad eventually told everybody to gather around the table as he prayed 🙄 idk how prayers in muslim celebrations go but i think he recited "bismillah rahman raheem yada..yada" and then thanking Allah for giving his daughter another wonderful year in her life. After that we dug in she went to eat with us in our table later there were some fun mini games where she asked any of the guests some questions about her and gave chocolate prizes to the first ones who could answer. Later everybody posed for pictures with the birthday celebrant either by group or one on one.

Then as it was time to go home, i bid her parents goodbye thanking them for the meal they also thanked me for being a good friend to their daughter they called her to see me off at the gate. She and me talked for a bit as she thanked us again for making it one of her best memorable days. I told her how she was really lucky to have loving and parents (bcuz afaik most muslim parents dont treat their daughters like princesses). She said she does count herself lucky and that she was supposed to celebrate her 18th birthday (which is tradition) but things were hard for her family back then so they made up for it on her 20th. She gave me a hug (i cant deny that i liked it) to my surprise as i went home for the night.

So do u think i have a chance with her if i ask her out?