For older INFJs: Does it get better?

As INFJs, we all know that we tend to trigger those who are putting on a mask. It is a sad reality that we end up attracting such people 99% of the time. So when at the end of this life, when we are old with gray hair and someone asks us "Why are you lonely?" and you tell them "People wronged me 9/10 times", it all likelihood, they won't believe you. How should I convince people that I am right 10/10 times and I am usually the one being wronged because I trigger people just by existing? Of course, I might as well get accused of being a narcissist because narcissists rarely accept they are wrong. Now that's a double whammy! It is like the universe is gaslighting us into doubting our own realities.

Question for older (30+) INFJs: Does it get better? If you work on establishing firm boundaries and protect your energy, do you start attracting better people? Or do you end up alone? Does it get better at all (as an INFJ, I want to know the truth, even if hurts me😭)