Advice: Mom doesn’t’ want me to join
Hi! I 20F, am heavily interested in joining and learning more about the Navy. I’ve been speaking with a recruiter and have an appointment set up. However, my mom is discouraging this. When trying to talk about this face to face — she shoots the conversation down immediately and I cannot get a single word out without her being angry. She claims it is desperate and “stupid” because of our current president with fears of going to war.
To preface; I was in enrolled at a four year university, but unfortunately owe an 11k past due balance resulting in me having to drop out temporarily. I was devastated trying to explore my options while also having federal loans — subsidized and unsubsidized. My financial aid office did not give a flying fucking and made me move out lol.
I think the Navy would be an amazing opportunity for me with being able to see the world, having a structure, and (of course) the benefits. In the screenshot you’ll see how she talks to me every time I mention it. I do currently have a job but I only make 21.00/hr. Her argument is that it’s smarter to work and save money to get back in school immediately. Meanwhile, I have a long commute to work without a car & we’re struggling financially so I fear i’ll be back in the same predicament even If I save money for tuition — that’s just only the past due balance. Sometimes we struggle just for groceries.
Thoughts on how to even navigate this? I think she’ll kill me just even for going to my appointment lol — She seems to be stuck in her own ways since she worked as a civilian for DOD a few years ago.
Hi! I 20F, am heavily interested in joining and learning more about the Navy. I’ve been speaking with a recruiter and have an appointment set up. However, my mom is discouraging this. When trying to talk about this face to face — she shoots the conversation down immediately and I cannot get a single word out without her being angry. She claims it is desperate and “stupid” because of our current president with fears of going to war.
To preface; I was in enrolled at a four year university, but unfortunately owe an 11k past due balance resulting in me having to drop out temporarily. I was devastated trying to explore my options while also having federal loans — subsidized and unsubsidized. My financial aid office did not give a flying fucking and made me move out lol.
I think the Navy would be an amazing opportunity for me with being able to see the world, having a structure, and (of course) the benefits. In the screenshot you’ll see how she talks to me every time I mention it. I do currently have a job but I only make 21.00/hr. Her argument is that it’s smarter to work and save money to get back in school immediately. Meanwhile, I have a long commute to work without a car & we’re struggling financially so I fear i’ll be back in the same predicament even If I save money for tuition — that’s just only the past due balance. Sometimes we struggle just for groceries.
Thoughts on how to even navigate this? I think she’ll kill me just even for going to my appointment lol — She seems to be stuck in her own ways since she worked as a civilian for DOD a few years ago.