Advice needed: Default chat opener for M/F looking for M

Hey guys,

My wife and I have been open for well over a year and have been dating separate. Recently, we decided we would try to open our bedroom to a single male, for a 3 some. I'm the male half of our duo, and despite my wife's complaining over the last year and a half about how men are all pigs, I never really believed it until I started to see it first hand on some of the chats we've been having. We have only started, and not found the right guy, but they have been less than civil from what I've seen so far.

I decided to write up a default opening statement to answer the inevitable "what are you looking for?" question. I'd like to know if you all think this is too preachy or negative, and what your thoughts are about getting men to tone it down a little.

Here is what I was thinking:

"We are looking for genuinely nice/sexy guys who know how to be gentlemen. Yes, we're here for sex, but we're not interested in/or turned on by guys who just want to talk about banging right out of the gate. We're not concerned with how many orgasms you can give (wife's name). We're concerned with being safe, comfortable, and having fun. Be a dude, maybe try to be our friend. We'll get to the fucking part in due time."

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Thanks as always!!!