Newly Nonmonogamous and I Forgot...

Dude dating is rough. For context, I have actually felt nonmonogamous feelings ever since I started dating, but have always been a faithful partner. My partner and I recently opened up our marriage and I forgot how hard it is to actually meet people. I want to casually date as I think it is how I've actually developed more meaningful connections in the past than just friendships. Apps are rough. I don't do anything where I meet people I'm attracted to. I am not into kink especially. Just sort of want some extra/ different attention. It's sort of a rant, but I want to see what other people's experiences are. The pool just feels a lot dryer than it did years ago.

Edit: Thanks for your feedback everyone! I'm going to try and summarize here what everyone has said, just to make sure I am getting everyone's points: If dating was a numbers game before where there was "someone for everyone", it's really a zero sum numbers game that women are in the driver's seat of now. Love that for them by the way. The apps work if you're attractive (good profile matters), much less if you are not. Get hot or figure something else out. Meeting someone organically is still the best way to form a connection. Meeting someone organically is also much harder. Relationship maintenence still occurs. (I knew this but I thought I'd mention it since multiple people made comments about it.)