Dealing with homophobic family members

Omg I seriously feel like I'm going to explode. So, I am a lesbian(?) I think. I'm still figuring it out. I'm queer at least, and my family is super homophobic. My dad is a little different, more like "I'm ok with the gays, as long as it's not my daughter" and guess what.

They're mostly oblivious, which is a blessing. But it also means they can have these awful homophobic discussions in front of me. They were just talking about how butch lesbians are just men and they should not be allowed to exist, basically.

It's so frustrating because if I ever try to speak up at all, I'm called "woke" and it just leads to beratement. Who knows what could happen if I ever came out/got outed. I'm just so upset and I can't even express it without being called a snowflake.

This is just such an awful position and I just feel like I can't deal with them anymore.