Why Men Are Doomed Due to Hypergamy in Modern Society
Hey everyone,
I’ve been thinking about the whole concept of hypergamy and its impact on men, especially in the context of modern Indian society.
In India, this trend is especially prominent. Society’s expectations and norms often push men to strive for higher status, wealth, or success, all in the hope of attracting a partner who meets societal beauty standards or comes from a higher socio-economic background. It’s an unspoken rule: the more you achieve, the more likely you are to "win" in the dating or marriage game.
Here are some reasons why this leads to men being "doomed":
The Pressure to Be Good Enough : The bar is set so high for men in terms of their career, financial status, and overall life achievements. It’s almost like you’re only as valuable as the title on your business card or the size of your paycheck. This leads to immense pressure, and many men spend their whole lives chasing an impossible standard just to feel worthy of someone else’s attention.
The Rise of the “Alpha” Male Myth
The constant push for men to be leaders, high earners, and successful entrepreneurs often leads to a kind of toxic masculinity where feelings and vulnerabilities are suppressed. It creates an ideal that is unattainable for most, and men who don’t fit the mold often feel like failures, this makes relationships inherently toxic.The Disparity in Relationship Expectations Women today are more empowered, and while that’s amazing, it’s led to a shift in how relationships are perceived. There’s often a notion that a woman is "expected" to find someone who is wealthier, taller, smarter, and more successful than her. Meanwhile, men are supposed to accept partners that may not meet these same societal standards , It creates an imbalanced playing field.
The Growth of Online Dating and Shallow Standards Platforms like Tinder and Bumble have exacerbated this problem. With profiles based on looks and instant judgments based on superficial details, men are constantly under the microscope, fighting for attention in a sea of competition. The focus on surface-level traits often leaves less room for men who are kind, compassionate, or intelligent but not necessarily at the top of the economic ladder , also not to mention the social media inflating ego of average women , with even seemingly mediocre ones being given unlimited validation by millions of sexually frustrated s*mps , also we are now competing with men all around the globe too not just some random dudes in our neighborhood.
The Toll on Mental Health All this pressure to meet these high standards often leaves men feeling inadequate. Anxiety, depression, and a sense of failure are all on the rise, especially for younger men who are still figuring out life. It’s as though you can’t win, no matter how hard you try.
I’m not saying women should settle or that they shouldn’t aim for someone who meets their standards – they should. But this new relationship system is incredibly toxic and dangerous for male mental health
What are your thoughts on this? The only solution I see is to avoid relationships completely and focus on hustling ? Do you agree ?