Gays of Ottawa, how did you meet your partner?

TLDR: Lonley gay girl looking to date outside of using tinder

Specifically asking as a lesbian who feels like the queer community doesn’t really exist in Ottawa outside of all the pride month activities in the summer, how do you guys find people to date here?

I’m trying to stay off the dating apps and im starting to feel like there are quite limited options to meet other gay women. I’ve tried the LGBT club at uni but its majority first years around 17-18 years old, so trying to pursue someone in that club is something im uncomfortable with as an older student.

I’ve tried the skate park but they’re mostly filled with teenage boys, ive tried clubs/bars but they’ve either been dominated by girls already with their boyfriends, hetero couples who “saw me across the bar and liked my vibe” or girls idk how to approach because I think they look straight. (Side note, is Lookout considered a “gay bar”? Or is it just a bar where sometimes there’s drag shows)

The funny thing about that last part is, im quite femme presenting too, and my friends have told me before that outwardly, they would think that im straight myself because i don’t “look gay”. ( I guess because im not masc/tomboy-adjacent) Maybe this is hurting my chances lol.

I’m at the point where im considering purchasing a carabiner for the sole purpose of attracting queer women😪😪

Any tips?