People Pleasing

I’ve always been a big people pleaser from being brought up by 2 narcissist parents. I was able to break the cycle in my family and create boundaries. Ever since I’ve been pregnant my mom specifically has been up my a$$… randomly saying she misses me so very much, wants to get together with me once a month, texting me random stuff that she’s doing. She kicked me out 5 years ago and never wanted to get together before until I told her I’m pregnant. I got nothing from her. Just texts asking for money, to help her find a rental, or to do her budget. She is acting like we are best friends now. Saying she wants to help participate in planning my baby shower, go to ultrasounds, and if she can randomly stop by. I’m not one to deal with conflict and usually can just deal with minor things with her. I feel since getting pregnant I kinda just want to tell her what’s up!That I’d rather her not come around because she stresses me out to the max with just her presence and I have to walk on egg shells or she might loose her temper but then I go back and think am I being too rude???? I’m just unsure what to do exactly/what to say/how to approach? Any advice is welcome ty!