Raleigh is dead (?)

I lived here from 2008-2016 but come back to visit 2-3x a year to see family and friends. Where is everyone??? In-laws bought a place 10 min drive from downtown but all the old haunts are dead and even the new “trendy”restaurants seem to be relatively quiet. Where do you guys eat and drink these days? Please don’t say we have to start going to Durham.