I’m (32F) thinking about leaving my husband (37M). Do you think I’d be doing the right thing?

We’ve been together for 13 years and married for 7 years. We don’t have any children.

He has supported me through the darkest days and been my cheerleader and encouraged me to take opportunities in my career that have taken me a lot further than I ever expected.

There are a few things behind why I’m questioning my ability to be in this marriage for the rest of my life and that I’m wondering if I might be better off by myself. - there is no intimacy in our marriage and there hasn’t been for around 5 years. There is some affection but no intimacy. - I’ve tried bringing it up many times to get some answers on why this might be but he just shuts down and won’t say anything - he is opposed to any form of therapy whether individually or as a couple. I’ve bought it up many times. - he would rather I go and seek intimacy outside of our marriage than be intimate with me. I have not done this and I’m not looking to but felt necessary to add it as context because it was his suggestion around a year ago when I bought it up at the time. - In the first few years I regularly tried to initiate, tried numerous things to change things up and open the door but I was always rejected so I stopped trying around 2 years ago. - I am NOT making this political. Around when COVID started he became more extreme leaning on his chosen side of the political spectrum. Concerningly so. We were never 100% on the same page politically but we were a lot more similar minded. Now he is quite hateful toward people and the world. But it concerns me regarding the future when having children. His views regarding child raising have changed and don’t align with my views anymore and I question putting myself in that situation. His views when it comes to women have changed, I also started earning more than him about 6 months ago and it has been downhill in terms of attitude towards women since then.

I do have a comfortable life, we live in a nice house and earn a comfortable living. We travel often. I seriously question if ending the marriage is the best decision because I feel somewhat pathetic for wanting to end things for the reasons above. But it’s been weighing on me for a long time and I need the views of people who don’t know either of us.